Monday, October 29, 2012

This and That

This post is going to be a mess. Just bare with me. I'm a little unorganized in my mind today. Hell, who am I kidding? My brain has never been in order.
My first point for the day! I realized that something wonderful has come out of this shitty economy. I was at the grocery store the other day, using my trusty coupons and the old broad woman behind me started getting mad. She was sighing loudly and fidgeting. I looked at her and she shot me the nastiest look. It was because I had just handed the cashier a bunch of coupons. It had been so long since someone in line had gotten mad because I had used coupons. I had almost forgotten what it was like to piss everyone off around me because of a few slips of paper. Saving money and using coupons is becoming more accepted to the point where no one has a fit, well almost no one. And to the old woman having a fit over a few coupons, I hope you get violent gas.
I also have a new saying for all of us savers. I think that it will do us well in the coming months. I do think that the worst is yet to come. I know, I'm such a downer. I just think that gas prices and taxes are going to shoot up after the election no matter who wins. Anyways, back to the saying. Endure, Adapt, Thrive. It kind of sums up the entire process over to the frugal side.
The endure part is from a saying my dad had, "You aren't sick of it yet." I HATED when he said that to me. He was right but I still hated. Whenever I had a problem and was bitching about it, he would say that. "When you have had enough, then you will fix it." He was a smart man- aggravating as hell but smart.
Adapt-It is about us finding a way to make our new plan work. Adjusting to our new frugal environment.You know the plan we come up with when we finally are sick of our situation.
Thrive-Once we figure out what works for us as individuals, then we will prosper.
This ties in to my Christmas spending. Everyone that said I was spending too much in the past was right. I didn't want to hear it but you were right. I just didn't want to give up my standard of Christmas. So I had to adapt and boy, did I! Free Christmas here we come!!!!
Our Christmases are extravagant. Well not by Rockefeller standards but by our life style, it is over the top. But is free still extravagant? Maybe once my brain is awake and a bit more organized, I will get the answer to that question.
Have a great day,
Sonya Ann


Mamma has spoken said...

I've had those people behind me in the store too. I just smile at them anyway, especially when the cashier tells me (loud enough for them to hear) how much money I saved :o)

Annie at Haphazard Homestead said...

To each his/her own, but I really think my family (both my side and Shane's) breathed a collective sigh of relief when we decided we'd no longer exchange Christmas gifts.

On my side, it just sort of came about on it's own (due to lack of interest more than economics). On Shane's side, we knew that a few people (us included) really couldn't afford to buy gifts for everyone, so we just suggested a no-gift Christmas for just one year. We all liked it so well, that it stuck!

Now the only gifts we buy are for Kat, sometimes for my daughter and son-in-law, one for Kat's teacher and one for Shane's boss.

McVal said...

lol! What an old bitty! I hope you looked smugly at her and said that HA! Your entire cart of groceries cost all of $3.00 out of pocket!!

Sonya Ann said...

Mamma-I don;t think anything was going to make that woman smile-ANYTHING! But it did make me smile to save money!

Sonya Ann said...

Annie-I like to give gifts. But the stress was too much before. A lot of it was my fault, I didn't plan very well for Christmas. Once I started shopping, year round for it-my life got better.
I;m so glad that you enjoy a Christmas that works for you. That is really what it is all about. Now if I can just convince everyone here that they want to do all the decorating and cookie making, my Christmas will be complete.

Sonya Ann said...

McVal-It was a little more than $3-I'm not Sluggy!

Sheila said...

I'm w/Mamma...I don't care what others think. I am the one paying the bill! (even if it is only a couple bucks LOL)

Jill said...

Hmmm perhaps you should be giving her a look back for not using coupons, lol. Shame on her in this economy. :-)
Hope you have a wonderful week ahead!


Frances said...

Oh, I just ignore those people and if I look in their direction at all, it is to look through them. I perfected that look when I worked in nightclubs and needed to get through a packed floor to the bathroom. LOL!

I am glad you are stressing less this Christmas.

slugmama said...

I WISH I could spend only $3 at the grocery store!!!lol

Now that you are among the "women of a certain age", what the hell do you care what that bitch thought!

I am giving her the old stink eye from PA in my mind as I type.
Next time call me and I can come sit on anyone who gives you grief...

Christmas is all about doing what works for yourself....doing what makes you happy AND what gives you relief from the STRESS of the Holiday!
If you enjoy your huge list, have at it!
As long as you can do it without putting yourself at risk financially, putting it on credit and having it stress you out it's all good.

We all spent our money and life force in ways that make sense for each of us.
I wouldn't do what you do but I can still appreciate it.
While I'd never spend the kind of money on so many loved ones/almost loved ones or so much time/effort doing it on the cheap, it's your money and your call. As long as someone(not saying this is you)isn't using the finances to bankroll gifts at the expense of putting money away for their needs or their future needs(and will require ME and others to bankroll their future because they wanted to spend everything on the here and now on "wants"), I say go for it!
It is, after all, still a free country....for the time being at least. ;-)

I like seeing your gift gyrations.....will she make?, won't she make it? Oooo! Doing it on the frugal excites's SonyaAnn's gift porn. lol

Sonya Ann said...

Sheila-I had forgotten how bad it used to be with people getting mad about coupons. Some things have gotten better. LOL

Sonya Ann said...

Jill-Thank you Jill. That uptight feeling came flooding back! I forgot that.

Sonya Ann said...

Frances-I bet that there were times when you hated people when you worked at the bar. Anna said after working with people all summer she can't stand them!

Sonya Ann said...

sluggy-I love to excite you in a statistic sort of way or is it a money saving sort of way? Or do both really get you going!
I've really had a different attitude lately. I just don't care so much. I think that I am all burned out on the house wife/mom thing. It sounds terrible but I just don't care. Anna is doing well in school, and I never thought that she would be the good kid. DJ is giving me grief left and right. We are ready to kill each other. So Den is getting involved more. Grrrr, teenagers.
We were big Halloween people and nothing got done this year. NOTHING. Not one decoration went up. I told Den when he wants to decorate, get everything out and I will HELP. Hmmmmm, I think that I will say the same thing about Christmas. I hate having the house a mess. I'm just not going to bust my ass so everyone can complain. I think I need a vacation.

slugmama said...

I think all men expect us women to do all this "creating a perfect holiday" thing....just like most of their mothers did or tried to do.
I say if the men want something done, they should do it themselves or at least instigate it/lead it. That includes cooking a big ass turkey day meal. I am all for soemone other than ME spending days in the kitchen slaving over Thanksgiving foods so they can complain that this isn't cooked the way they want it or that XXX isn't being served this year. You want a certain dish or you want a different preparation, then YOU do it guys!
I am sick to death of ungrateful kids.

I say you come here and we can go off somewhere for the Holidays and let the unappreciative in our families deal with the stress and the crap of the holidays on their own.

Sonya Ann said...

sluggy-If we ran off, they would never see us again. Could you imagine how clean and well fed we would be if it were just the two of us?
I have had enough. It is just getting to be too much. I want one of those ribbon Christmas trees and throw a bunch of gift cards under it and be done. Then order Christmas dinner and be done with the damned thing. Maybe go to Vegas instead!

Frances said...

SonyaAnn, I loved everyone when I worked in a bar.....I could drink at work. LOL!

And sorry to brag, but I have a Hubby that loves to help get things ready for holidays.

This Thanksgiving he is helping by taking me to the casino to keep me from cooking. LOL!

Sonya Ann said...

Frances-That man of yours is GOLD!
I said to Den we should go to Vegas for Thanksgiving. I can't even imagine the spread that would be put out! And no clean up! I would miss the leftovers though!