Tuesday, August 19, 2014

Here We Go Again

Remember when I got this lovely piece of mail? Well the person that sent the card the first time is up to it again.
Yes, I received this lovely little card in the mail.
So now the nut job is cutting things out of the newspaper. I blacked it out but they know where Den works and where I live. My guess is that its a person Den works with. And this isn't a copycat sort of thing because the post mark is the same.
How crazy is this? Den and I aren't fighting and I know he's not cheating at lunch because he calls me EVERY day at lunch. It's our phone date. And if he was cheating, wouldn't you just take a picture and include that?
So how about we all play detective and you come up with some ideas?
I know we should call the police but this isn't a threat, its more along the lines of harassment and we would rather catch the person at Den's job. Sherlock Holmes, where are you?
Nut Magnet,
Sonya Ann

28 comments:

T'Pol said...

I am a reader but not much of a commenter. Here is my two cents:

My guess would be someone who has a crush on your husband. Probably this person knows that unless you two quarrel, there is no way she/he can come between you two. Your hubby should look around carefully to see if there is anyone hitting on him even in subtle ways. This person may be at his work place or a neighbour.

This may not be alarming just yet but people can be real nut jobs. I have been watching too many real life stories on Investigation Discovery lately and I would take this seriously. Even this is just harrassment not stalking yet, they have no right to disturb you in such a manner. Hope you find and crush the bug...

slugmama said...

The world is full of people who need a life!
I think we both are magnets for nut jobs.

I know it's difficult to do and easy to say but just ignore this looney tunes.
They get a thrill out of thinking you will react in some way to it....don't give them the satisfaction!

Love you and Den!!!

Linda said...

Poison pen letters are still something the police can take care of. It is harassment through a federal agency. Maybe you should see about getting fingerprints from the card inside. Harassment escalates, and the escalation might be more dangerous. Contact the police. Since this comes from the job, the business might be liable for not taking better care of employees on the job.

If it is the woman you suspected the first time, she may try to hurt your husband's job or hurt him. I think this has gone beyond annoying. Tell him not to drink out something he has left alone for a moment.

Sonya Ann said...

T'Pol-Thank you so much for being a loyal reader!
I KEEP SAYING THAT(someone having a crush)! If she wanted his job, she would start something at work. But she hasn't. Why would someone take a swipe at his wife? Either she wants to cause trouble at home or she wants me gone.
Bug crushing is all I want!!!!

Sonya Ann said...

sluggy-Yes we are magnets.
It was much easier to deal with it this time. But still I have to say that I felt a bit of relief when DJ was gone. I don't have to worry about him just me.

Sonya Ann said...

Linda-I have been pushing for Den to go to the police. I think that he is dragging his feet because he is worried that it will cause trouble for him on the job and he doesn't want the police there to give it away.
As for the fingerprints, I put it in a plastic baggie and didn't touch it again. But still, I'm wondering if the police will even both with something so small. I did contact the post master and she said that I need to contact the police and then file a report with the post office. They have their own internal systems for things like this. She did say one thing that bothered me, she said that they only seem to escalate in cases like these.

Lena said...

I would still call the police. There are lots of crazies out there. They probably won't do much at this point but might give you an advice on what to look for.

Cheapchick said...

OMFG = Definitely a form of stalking. Has Den noticed anything else weird? He might be afraid to tell you. You might want to contact the police only to file a complaint in case you ever find out who it is then you can sick them on her.

M Ripples said...

I think you should file a complaint with the police too. That way there is a record that someone is harassing you even if you don't know who it is at this point.

McVal said...

Man oh man! Is SHE a looney or what??!!!
This is stalking for sure.

Linda said...

Den be protecting you, children, and his home. Seriously, what if this person wanted you out of the way so much, she just torched the house. I think she is trying to cause him trouble, via you...if she is the one you suspect.

I don't let these lie. Den won't have trouble at work! The police want to be subtle, so as not to tip her off. If they take it seriously, there might be a good reason. Maybe this person has done this type thing before. Maybe you are not be first. Maybe she has done it to neighbors, friends, relatives?

Do you think she might just target one of your children at school? Do you want their lives turned upside down, their heads messed with...all to get even with Den and upset you? The best way to bother me is bother my children.

Go to police, both of you.

Mama .bonnie said...

Wowzer she is a nut job to say the least. I think it's time for you and Den to go out for lunch EVERY SINGLE DAY for the next month or so. Make sure to have witnesses at his work see you together, hugging, holding hands and a few kisses here and there. That will piss her off.
But then the others could be right. I would at least talk to someone in law enforcement about it.

Jane said...

Yup, I'm with the "contact the police" people. Better safe than sorry. I find it rather unnerving and I'm not even there! And yes, there could be fingerprints and the person may be in the system! Then it's over and done with! Just do it!

Linda said...

I sound like an idiot when I read what I typed. First, my computer picks and chooses what it displays when I hit the keys. Plus, now the letters I type just land in the previous sentence! Second, I could not see what I was typing or the keyboard. Why was I so blind after having eyes dilated? (rhetorical)

Sonya Ann said...

Lena-Den still wants to wait because if the person that did this sees the police at their work, she will stop. He wants to catch the person and get them fired. I'm just wondering if getting her fired will make this stop.

Sonya Ann said...

Cheapchick-I want to contact the police but I do understand his point of having to still go to work with this person.

Sonya Ann said...

M Ripples-I agree. We need to build a case against her even if we don't know who she is.

Sonya Ann said...

McVal-Can't say my life is boring, can we?

Sonya Ann said...

Linda-As far as targeting the kids, I think this is more directed at getting me out of the picture. And I think she wants Den as a partner so hurting his kids would eliminate any chance that she had. But I have thought of it and I warned both of the kids. I'm sure that it went in one ear and out the other but still its my job to nag.

Sonya Ann said...

Mama-What happens when you piss off a crazy person? LOL wait are we referring to the stalker or me?

Sonya Ann said...

Jane-In a way, I just think this is a coward that is doing it. But then again, anyone nutty enough to cut and glue stuff has to have something wrong with them. But I just see this as a swipe at our marriage.

Sonya Ann said...

Linda-No worries, I have had my eyes dilated. YUCK

judy smith said...

hang it up on bullentin board(if they have one) and tell them that all notes of this tye are now being forewarded to the police and hr. I would def let hr know though.


What an ass....some people have to much time on their hands..I mean if they are bored my bathroom needs to be cleaned!!! And at least they could have made it gramatically correct..geez..

hugs
Judy

Frances said...

That is just crazy. I hope Den figures out who it is and gets her canned.

Sonya Ann said...

judy smilth-I just don't understand how someone would have so much time on their hands that they could plot to mess up someone else's lives.
And maybe picking up trash on the side of the road with the other delinquents is more fitting of her.

Sonya Ann said...

Frances-I hope so too but the odds of finding out who it is is very slim.

Anne in the kitchen said...

I read your blog regularly but have never posted before. As usual I am late to the party but did want to chime in on this.

I have lived through similar situations before. My husband has a fairly high position in a largish company. Though I did not get notes like you I got "concerned" anonymous phone calls. Turns out it was someone who wanted his position and was trying to make his personal life complicated. I guess they thought I would put heat on him to quit. ( They had already tried to sabotage his professional reputation and that didn't work either) Don't assume it is a female, in our case it wasn't.

Sonya Ann said...

Anne in the kitchen-THank you for chiming in. You were fashionably late. ;p
I have to say that it has really helped to put this problem out there. It sucks that you had to go through this but your knowledge and wisdom has helped. I can say that Den and I discussed your comment for quite some time. It helped us both. I just hope we catch the SOB.